There are few things less enjoyable than making small talk with people you barely know. It’s uncomfortable and forced and both parties are aware of it. You never know what topics are okay and which ones aren’t. And you’re always just a little worried you’re smiling too much. It’s always horrible but often it’s necessary.
So, here are 6 tips to help you out next time you’re forced into making small talk.
Stay away from the weather
Yes, it’s an easy topic to cling to in those awkward moments. But it’s just plain obvious that you have no idea what to say. And if you’re in a work environment with a new client or your CEO, you don’t want them to know you’re uncomfortable.
Smile
Don’t look too serious. When you’re concentrating on what to say next, your face may show it. You may look as awkward as you feel and you don’t want to do that. So, make sure to smile occasionally so it almost looks like you want to be there. But, of course, don’t smile too much. That’s just creepy.
Ask questions
The easiest way to keep up small talk without embarrassing yourself is to ask simple questions. Ask about their job, what their hobbies are, what they were up to on the weekend or what their plans are for the festive season. Just don’t go too far and become intrusive.
Keep it light
Don’t approach deep conversations. Small talk is meant to be light and fluffy, not intense. Don’t talk about the meaning of life or discuss why nobody has come up with a cure for cancer yet. Always remember that this person is a stranger and you don’t know what is a sensitive subject for them. It’s best you talk about things that are conflict proof.
Don’t be afraid to make a few jokes
Just because you’re not in your comfort zone doesn’t mean you have to be serious the whole time. Relax and make them laugh a little. Whip out your best puns and throw out some one-liners. It’ll make the small talk so much easier. But, whatever you do, do not be offensive.
Avoid telling them your life story
You may want to tell them about your family, that argument you had with your partner, the cession form you just signed or how you’ve got this really annoying ingrown toenail. Don’t. Keep those thoughts inside and instead tell them about your favourite restaurant. Remember, you don’t know this person.